The Four Agreements written by Don Miguel Ruiz is a personal-growth book that outlines 4 principals to guide your life by. This book was written to help the reader pull themselves out of their own limiting beliefs that create suffering. Oftentimes, we become stuck in our own beliefs about a situation. The Four Agreements that Ruiz outlines can serve as an inner guidebook to transform our lives.
The Four Agreements(taken from the cover):
“Be Impeccable With Your Word – Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Don’t Take Anything Personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Don’t Make Assumptions – Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always Do Your Best – Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.”
I found this to be a quick but powerful read. The agreements are helpful to remember in certain situations and above all, “always do your best.” If the other 3 are difficult to follow, do your best. I think it’s a nice reminder that others are doing their best as well.
Read this book if:
You are looking for self-improvement
Self-compassion is difficult at times
You have a desire for a simple set of guidelines to live by in challenging times
Ruiz, M. (1997). The four agreements: A practical guide to personal freedom. San Rafael, CA: Amber-Allen Pub.