Jen Sincero’s “You Are a Badass at Making Money” book is the followup to “You Are a Badass.” She explores making money in her first book, but this one takes a deeper dive. She starts off by exploring how you view money, messages from your childhood or past about money, to what’s holding you back from making money or putting your idea out there, fears around money, to finally developing a new and different relationship with money that perhaps you ever had.
“We’ve been raised to believe that you have to work hard to make money, and certainly there are times when this is true, but the real secret is you have to take huge, uncomfy risks. You have to do stuff you’ve never done before, to make yourself visible, to acknowledge your own”
I found her first book so inspiring especially as an entrepreneur that I knew I had to read her book about money. I enjoyed the exercises and money mantras she includes in each chapter. Her writing style makes it feel like you are having a chat with a friend.
We have the privilege of meeting Casey Jean Miller, a therapeutic yoga teacher and creator of Jean’s Apothecare. Her journey to yoga began when she was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis at age 21. A friend suggested that she engage in an activity that was more restorative. Casey Jean knew she was getting something out of yoga that she had not gotten anywhere else after her first class. She completed her yoga teacher training 4 years ago and began teaching in a variety of spaces. Around the same time, she was experimenting with combining Ayurvedic principles, Chinese medicine, and remedies from the Kelts and Native Americans to find relief from her psoriatic arthritis. Her first natural product was a body butter that soothed her pain. She found herself falling in love with the process of creating. Casey Jean went on to complete her 300-hour yoga teacher training and has transitioned to more slow-mindful based movement. She asks her students to do a self-inquiry by asking how do I feel, what do I need, and what do I need to do to take action?
“Our bodies are miraculous beings that are capable of so much more than we give them credit for and they can always use support.”
Casey Jean’s focus today is more of one-on-one and small group relationships to promote overall wellness by combining coaching, therapeutic yoga, mindfulness, and meditation. She also hosts a monthly “Cup of Calm” small group to continue the conversation of yoga off the mat, weaving in herbalism and mindfulness practices.
Casey Jean identifies Cleo Wade who has been influential in her work with others. Cleo is nicknamed the “Milennial Oprah” as she is a public speaker and writer of 2 books. Casey Jean continues to return to “Heart Talk,” a book of poems where she feels directly spoken to. Casey Jean has been inspired by her dad at a young age when they would travel to new places and dream together. They had many big ideas of businesses they would create. She says that he always supported and fostered the dreamer’s spirit in her.
“We all need and want support and that’s why we are here on Earth. To live in a way where we take good care of ourselves. Where we nuture and nourish our minds and our body. Where we are taking good care of ourselves, each other, where we have fun, and do the hard work.”
In the Charlotte community, Casey Jean is inspired by Life Coach, Carrie Wren who has taught her to trust in herself and create the life she wants to live. She is also inspired by Therapist, Amy Williams, who focuses on self-care, creativity, authenticity, and fun.
Jean’s Apothecare natural products can be purchased online or at her physical store above Moxy Mercantile(2008 Commonwealth Avenue, Charlotte, NC 28205). She invites all listeners to join her private facebook community called, “Nuturing Your Mind and Body.”
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross is known for her work around grief and later in life began collaborating with David Kessler. “On Grief and Grieving” is the last book she wrote before dying. The book is about finding the meaning of grief through the stages of grief. The authors go through the stages(denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) and caution that they are not meant to be viewed as a path towards healing but simply a framework of experiences one may go through when experiencing grief. The authors discussed inner experiences such as regrets, hauntings, isolation, and strength. They provide detailed information on each of these experiences including examples. They followup with the outer experiences such as holidays, finances, and closure with vignettes.
“The pain of loss is so intense, so heartbreaking, because in loving we deeply connect with another human being, and grief is the reflection of the connection that has been lost. We think we want to avoid the grief, but really it is the pain of the loss we want to avoid. Grief is the healing process that ultimately brings us comfort in our pain.”
I think this book provides a good framework to consider when dealing with grief associated with death. It helped to understand the development of the 5 stages and other experiences(inner and outer) one could have when dealing with grief. If you are looking for a book on general grief(not related to death) this book probably won’t be as helpful as there are many references to death or anticipatory grief.
Read this book if:
You have experienced grief related to death
Work with others in a healing capacity who are experiencing grief
Our guest today is Lynne Beck, a Licensed Mental Heal Counselor who works with adults and specializes in couples therapy. Her journey to couples therapy began when she was working with adults and saw how much distress was related to relationships; romantic, parent-child, and friendships. She began her training in “Emotionally Focused Therapy” developed by Sue Johnson. Lynne also works with adults in an individual capacity with difficulties around anxiety, depression, ongoing relationships, and trauma.
“People think the conflict is what’s pulling them apart but it’s really the emotional disconnection has happened first and the conflict is them trying to get that back.”
Lynne describes EFT as a modality that helps couples identify patterns of communication, strengthen their relationship, help them hear each other and can work together to come up with their own solutions, and slow down the process of what we are saying when we communicate. She said that most couples do not get a chance to really hear what their partner is trying to communicate or get that far in the discussion. Lynne says that both parties in a relationship want to feel hear, feel like their partner is in it with them, and to feel like a priority. Lynne will help couples utilize “active listening” as part of their homework where they can only respond by paraphrasing and avoiding thoughts, opinions and directives. Lynne states that EFT uses the acronym ARE; How Accessible are you? How Responsive are you? and How Engaged are you?
Lynne recommends all couples read “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment” by Levine and Heller as well as Sue Johnson’s book, “Hold Me Tight.” Lynne discusses adult attachment, how it is formed and reinforced through life, and how it plays out between couples. She referenced the research experiment “Still Face” where a mother has no expression on her face and her baby demonstrates the 3 major attachment styles; secure, anxious, and avoidant. In Charlotte, Lynne is inspired by Anne Hancock of the Wellness Counseling Center who she has trained in EFT with for many years.
“Being proactive and using it to strengthen your relationship and really enhance communication so that when some of those bigger things happen, you can protect your relationship moving forward.”
Lynne’s recommendations for couples seeking couples therapy to consult with 1 or more therapists before starting(most offer no-charge), find someone trained in EFT which is evidenced based, give it a chance, and reach out when you start thinking about it.
In this episode, we are fortunate to meet Alison Pulito; a Reiki Master, Intuitive Healer, Meditation and Yoga teacher. Her journey into these healing spaces happened when she endured a hip injury 14 years ago which led to 2 hip replacements, a tear in her iliopsoas, immense pain, and depression that left her isolated in her home for 10 years. During this trying time, Alison started a meditation practice to see if it would relieve her pain. Around this same time, she also decided to try Reiki where she was able to be pain-free for 15 minutes. She immersed herself into over 150 books during this time as well as completed multiple online Reiki trainings and since has completed an in person training. She became certified as a Reiki Master in the Usui system. She describes Reiki as “life force energy” and as a practitioner she allows energy to come through her for the highest and best good for the person on the table. During a Reiki session, she also works with the Chakra system which is described as “wheels of light.” These energy centers each housed along the spine associated with an organ can become blocked therefore causing complications in certain areas of life that they coincide with.
“With Reiki, you can see it mid-stream and understand a little about it then we can become in more flow with that experience as opposed to resisting it or trying to push it away from us.”
Alison’s entry into Intuitive healing occurred during her own journey of healing as she would utilize automatic writing after a meditation. It started as a wind sound in her ear which turned into a message of “we need you.” During sessions with her she channels messages from the Angelic Realm. Alison also leads group meditations which she recommends as a great place for people to start with her work. The messages in her meditations are channeled from what we are experiencing collectively. She says it provides her students support as they realize that they are not alone in what they are experiencing.
“What I’ve been told, I’m here to be a teacher and healer for people who are beginning to experience something that transcends their physical day to day experience that brings them into a higher understanding of why they are here.”
Alison has provides 3 books that she has found to be influential in her work; “The Calling” by Rasha, “Many Lives, Many Masters” by Brian Weiss, and “Conversations with God, Book 1” by Neale Donald Walsch. She also recommends “The Seat of the Soul” by Gary Zukav for anyone starting their spiritual journey. Alison loves Charlotte for the inclusive nature, the artistic and spiritual communities, as well as the opportunities for growth that are available. She is inspired by Robbie Warren, a Shamanic Healer, Autumn Austin, a Psychotherapist who utilizes Sound Healing, and the entire staff of Noda Yoga for the environment they provide and wealth of knowledge each teacher possesses.
Alison offers many of her guided mediations online complimentary. Visit her website for the links or join her for her weekly meditation classes.