“The Power of Attachment” by Diane Poole Heller examines the four attachment styles that we fall into and how they play out in our adult significant relationships. She dedicates an entire to the, as she calls it “attachment adaptations;” secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized. Each chapter is full of clear descriptions, origins of the style from childhood, vignettes, and exercises. Most of the exercises have a visualization component to them. The last chapter describes what a securely attached couple exhibits as well as how to work with the insecure styles to create more security.
“We’re hardwired for secure attachment, we have the equipment. Deep down, all of us are designed for intimacy, connection, awareness, and love.”
I’ve previous read “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment” and really enjoyed the content. After reading this one, I prefer it over the other, although, Heller references the work of the authors in “Attached” many times. I preferred this one as it goes deeper into the origins of the attachment styles and explores “disorganized attachment” whereas the previous book did not. I feel as if the exercises in this book will give the reader tangible ways to find more security in relationships as well as hope. Heller seems to be very mindful of not boxing someone into one label and giving hope for security.
Read this book if:
You are an adult
Have a desire to learn more about your own or partner’s attachment style
Want to find more security and stability in your adult relationships
The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson is a book written for parents or anyone who may be around a child from the age of birth to 12. Dr. Daniel Siegel is known in the psychology field by his research of the brain; integrating the different parts and using tools to develop it. He uses a lot of mindfulness techniques.
The book is divided into 5 basic sections of brain education and tools to help your child with development of the various parts. The 5 sections include; left and right brain, upstairs and downstairs brain, memories, mindsight(looking inward), and empathy and connection.
I found this book to be a quick but informative read. I love the symbols they use to describe more complex functions of the brain. For example: “As a result, kids are prone to getting “trapped downstairs,” without the use of their upstairs brain, which results in them flying off the handle, making poor decisions, and showing a general lack of empathy and self-understanding.” The authors include comics of typical scenarios with responses as well as their suggested responses. I think the tools in each chapter are valuable for parents. The end of the book includes each section with how to implement the tools, divided up by age ranges.
Read this book if:
You are a parent of a child from 0-12 or work with children in this age range.
Want more brain development information.
Looking for better ways to communicate with your child.
Want more tools as a parent in handling the emotional ups and downs of your child.
Camp Kanata’s 2016 Mother-Daughter Weekend was a fun-filled weekend in Wake Forest, NC. Mothers and daughters engaged in all sorts of camp activities as well as an exciting drum circle. Katie led the mothers and daughters in two yoga classes with some fun partner poses and a living mandala. The scenery could not be beat as it was overlooking the lake. Katie also held a Communication Building workshop that focused on tools to use at home to open up the lines of communication, recognizing when to “take a break,” and understanding each other better. Overall, it was an exciting weekend to be a part of and heart warming to see all of the mothers and daughters enjoying their time together.
Katie Overcash is excited to collaborate and contribute to the “Growing Our Girls” initiative. Look for upcoming content and events on their website here. GOG is a Charlotte-based brand created by Kristin Mountcastle, a mom of 2 girls who believes in the power of connection to empower our girls to navigate the world with confidence and kindness. GOG also connects families of boys to help raise them with respect and understand the importance of gender equality.
Self-esteem and self-worth development, character building, and competency recognition are journeys each child finds themselves on as they grow and mature. Supporting children on this journey is vital and can be difficult at times. Attending this discussion, you will be able to recognize each of your child’s uniqueness and gain or reinforce the tools to foster this development through adolescence as they reach their “enoughness.”
Katie is honored to present at Charlotte Parent’s Mom Matters Event on Friday, March 4th. Tickets are now on sale for $20. For more information or to purchase tickets visit their website here.